The question was, “Is femdom inherently feminist?
Tag: domme thoughts
Submission Vs. Kinky Play in Lifestyle Vs. Pro-Domination
But you’ll also hear a lot of dommes say that many of these men aren’t REALLY submissive. They’re bottoms. They like kinky play, but that’s all. They don’t actually want a woman to be in charge and in control. They just want a woman to…you know…do stuff to them. Tie them up. Control their orgasms. “Make” them give a lot of oral sex. (I know. My heart bleeds for them.)
Masturbating to Rainbow Sherbet
Today I felt like talking a little bit about having a vanilla partner. To be honest, I don’t really like labels. I feel like kinky people sometimes use the word “vanilla” in a derogative way. I actually love vanilla ice cream and the scent of vanilla. There is nothing wrong with vanilla!
Do I Have a D/s Relationship, and What Does That Mean Anyway?
When I first got into the kink Scene I spent a lot of time of thinking about what I WAS. I mean this mostly in the sense that when you join Fetlife, you’re asked to choose a role, and since people I met were going to be seeing my Fetlife profile, I felt I needed something to label myself.
Things I Like About Men, and Things I Don’t…
I am picky about men. I don’t mean sexually, although that’s also true. I’m sexually picky far beyond what I deserve based on my own fuckability. Purely objectively. And that’s not really a choice. I would certainly like to be attracted to more people. I’m just generally…not. I mean that I’m picky about the men…
Planning a Kink Scene, or Why I Stopped Planning Scenes When I Also Stopped Wearing a Bra
If you’re into tease and denial, like sommmeeeeee people around here, not naming any names, that “scene” could be something like I edge you continuously for an hour while periodically doing other things to drive you insane.
I Don’t Know If I Want to Be a Domme, But I Definitely Want to Be a Vampire
I get a lot of my blog ideas from reading questions people ask on forums. And today someone asked about what inspires your domme energy. Basically, I think I just always wanted to be a vampire.
The Internet Is a Sewer
Then most of the rats who live in the sewer don’t want to come into the light, and you are left with people who took the time to:
Passivity Is Not Hot: Why You Can and Should Be an Active Sub
While I certainly can’t speak for all dommes and/or tops out there, I feel like I’m confident enough in this belief that I can just say it. Passivity is not hot.
Spooky Woman Sex Dream
I had a bizarre dream last night which woke me up from sleep in which I discovered that my boyfriend had been seeing a woman named Texas without telling me for several months.