Today I felt like talking a little bit about having a vanilla partner. To be honest, I don’t really like labels. I feel like kinky people sometimes use the word “vanilla” in a derogative way. I actually love vanilla ice cream and the scent of vanilla. There is nothing wrong with vanilla!
When I first got into the kink Scene I spent a lot of time of thinking about what I WAS. I mean this mostly in the sense that when you join Fetlife, you’re asked to choose a role, and since people I met were going to be seeing my Fetlife profile, I felt I needed something to label myself.
I finished the book fairly quickly, but the general idea of it stayed with me, and I must admit it crept into the sex I was having with my boy. I sometimes imagined him as one of the men from The Fortress, who came to my room in the morning for me to use for my enjoyment.
FLR stands for female led relationship. When people talk about femdom, what they usually talk about is the sexual aspect. They’re talking about bedroom kink where people are playing with sexual roles or where they’re not playing, but tend to leave the idea of the woman in charge in the realm of sexuality. An example …