Submission Vs. Kinky Play in Lifestyle Vs. Pro-Domination

But you’ll also hear a lot of dommes say that many of these men aren’t REALLY submissive. They’re bottoms. They like kinky play, but that’s all. They don’t actually want a woman to be in charge and in control. They just want a woman to…you know…do stuff to them. Tie them up. Control their orgasms. “Make” them give a lot of oral sex. (I know. My heart bleeds for them.) … Continue readingSubmission Vs. Kinky Play in Lifestyle Vs. Pro-Domination

Do I Have a D/s Relationship, and What Does That Mean Anyway?

When I first got into the kink Scene I spent a lot of time of thinking about what I WAS. I mean this mostly in the sense that when you join Fetlife, you’re asked to choose a role, and since people I met were going to be seeing my Fetlife profile, I felt I needed something to label myself. … Continue readingDo I Have a D/s Relationship, and What Does That Mean Anyway?

Planning a Kink Scene, or Why I Stopped Planning Scenes When I Also Stopped Wearing a Bra

If you’re into tease and denial, like sommmeeeeee people around here, not naming any names, that “scene” could be something like I edge you continuously for an hour while periodically doing other things to drive you insane. … Continue readingPlanning a Kink Scene, or Why I Stopped Planning Scenes When I Also Stopped Wearing a Bra

Is Gentle Femdom a “Porn Category?” Are People Just Jerks Online? And Other Burning Femdom Forum Inspired Questions…

I regularly read some femdom forums. I have for a long time. I didn’t post under thegentledomme name before I had this blog, but now I mostly do because my life consists of creating content and talking about sex and sometimes watching The Crown. It’s … Continue readingIs Gentle Femdom a “Porn Category?” Are People Just Jerks Online? And Other Burning Femdom Forum Inspired Questions…