What a treat! We got fan mail! TRS and I received the sweetest email from a new Domme who listens to our podcast.
I talked to a man this morning who wanted me to tell him what a day with me would really be like.
In this episode I tell you how Miss Vivian got her kinky groove back. TRS and I had some fun kinky play over the weekend, including one super simple scene idea if you like objectification as much as we do.
But as for reviving the kink in my kinky relationship (because I also have a much more vanilla relationship), I really don’t want to lose that. But it’s hard to find the effort when most of me says, “Just snuggle on the couch and watch Netflix.” In fact, I’ve even been finding myself wanting to be topped quite a bit lately, which is unusual for me. It’s like I want to be the person who doesn’t have to think and make the decisions.
When is femdom “real?”
But sometimes…just sometimes…I like to bottom.
The question was, “Is femdom inherently feminist?
But you’ll also hear a lot of dommes say that many of these men aren’t REALLY submissive. They’re bottoms. They like kinky play, but that’s all. They don’t actually want a woman to be in charge and in control. They just want a woman to…you know…do stuff to them. Tie them up. Control their orgasms. “Make” them give a lot of oral sex. (I know. My heart bleeds for them.)
Today I felt like talking a little bit about having a vanilla partner. To be honest, I don’t really like labels. I feel like kinky people sometimes use the word “vanilla” in a derogative way. I actually love vanilla ice cream and the scent of vanilla. There is nothing wrong with vanilla!
When I first got into the kink Scene I spent a lot of time of thinking about what I WAS. I mean this mostly in the sense that when you join Fetlife, you’re asked to choose a role, and since people I met were going to be seeing my Fetlife profile, I felt I needed something to label myself.