Taking the Forced Out of Bi

I like bisexual men. Heteroflexbile men. Whatever you’d like to call it. I think guy on guy makeouts and sex and kinkiness is hot. It turns me on.

This makes me as stereotypical as men who like lesbian porn because TWO WOMEN!!!!! But it does seem like fewer women admit to liking the idea of seeing two men together. And maybe that’s just because they don’t talk about it or that it plays into fears about masculinity. I don’t know. I can’t read other women’s minds. I just know that I think it’s hot, and I like it.

But what I don’t really like?

The idea of “forced bi.”

The idea that as a man you don’t REALLY want to suck cock. Oh, no. You would totally hate to take that big, thick, hard cock down your entirely not eager throat except that your girlfriend is MAKING you!

It’s all HER fault that you need to bend over and get your ass lubed up and practice daily with a variety of sizes of dildoes and plugs to get stretched out enough to be so MISERABLE that when a sexy guy pushes himself inside of you, you have simply no other choice but to whimper and moan and call him Daddy.

Those manipulative vixens! Practically hypnotizing your otherwise entirely straight and totally macho minds into accepting…and gradually even loving getting fucked by other men! In a dress even!

Oh! The humanity!

Am I being too snarky?

Look. I totally get the appeal of forced bi, and I actually don’t think that for the majority of guys who are into it, it’s because they can’t accept that they find something erotic about servicing men.

I understand that it can be a part of fantasy, and that even if they, themselves, don’t find it humiliating to be gay, bi or just sexually play with other men, there are centuries of shame around it. And that long standing shame IS part of the appeal, even if they don’t buy into it when their own dicks aren’t hard.

It’s humiliation play, and just like small penis humiliation, it’s cutting to the core of what our society has taught men about masculinity. Masculine men do not get fucked by other men. MAYBE they top other men. But they certainly do not bottom!

But also, as a woman who thinks that bi men can really sexy, and as an LBGTQA ally, there is just something a little painful about reinforcing those stereotypes and that shame. I want to be like—but baby—I think it would be SO hot to watch you get fucked! Be my good boy and open your mouth wide and take that cock! Ungh! That is so sexy!

And yet I also recognize that I am also totally objectifying bisexuality by wanting to be a voyeur to it. What can you do? I certainly don’t inflict my own desire on bi men by requesting that they show off their sexuality for my enjoyment. I mean, unless they’re my partner or sub and they don’t mind…. 😉 In which case, yes please.

But if control gets you excited and you really want to feel forced into doing something objectifying, can’t I force you do it the WAY I want you to do it rather than force you to have to do it in the first place? I can objectify, embarrass and even humiliate you a little bit without having to tell you that you’re not a “real” man because you like being sexual with other men.   

On Forced Bi and Why I’m Not Cool With the F Word

Hello my darling deviants!

I’m working on the fourth part of my Keyholder chastity erotica series. It’s becoming such a sweet, kinky love story. I guess I’m just a romantic at heart! Hopefully, it will be done in the next day or two. I must stay motivated to write!

I do release the stories for free here, but I also make paid versions of me reading my stories out loud to you if you’re into that idea. My Hot Stories + My Voice=Whatever You Do in The Privacy of Your Abode!

Today, I actually wanted to talk a little bit about forced-bi. This is a fantasy I’ve been running into more and more with my phone friends. And I admit I’ve always felt a little strange about it.

It’s not the bisexuality that weirds me out.  Oh, no. I mean, I have absolutely no issue with anyone’s sexual orientation and/or consensual preference, and I ALSO personally find the idea of being involved in an MMF or just watching two hot guys get it on to be VERY EXTREMELY DELICIOUSLY SEXY!

You know, just in case two gorgeous hunks are reading this. Or even one! I can provide the other with chemistry. 😉 (I’m joking. Don’t stalk me, please. I’ve been watching too much Hannibal lately.)

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So, no. It is not the bisexuality that I feel weird about. It’s the forced part.

I don’t see anything wrong with being bisexual or being a guy who identifies as primarily straight but just occasionally likes to hook up with other guys. And that stands for whether those hook ups are vanilla or kinky, top, bottom, both or neither.

And I think that’s why the “forced” part of forced bi makes me a little uncomfortable. I feel like I’m contributing to stereotypes and shame regarding homosexuality if I reinforce that it’s somehow bad or weak or dirty or shameful or “girly” to be a guy who wants to get with another guy. That I have to make a guy do it because me making him makes it ok for him to be okay with the fantasies he’s already having.

Instead, I want to be like, “Oh, no! You be proud to suck that cock! You be the best cock sucker you can be, and I am totally going to love watching you be my eager cock slut!”

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But—then I also get that a big part of kink is playing with taboos, and there can also be guys who really are totally okay with their desires but pretending that they’re being forced just makes the fantasy hotter because they want to be obedient and get off on me being in control. I feel more comfortable playing with the fantasy if I know that and not that I’m encouraging deep seated shame about homosexuality or bisexuality. But…we can really go down the rabbit hole, here…

I have had two people this week ask for me to call them the F word, and I realized I couldn’t. That was a hard limit of mine. I just didn’t feel right using that word, even in fantasy, even if someone was asking me to call him that because that’s how he identified.

And I think that’s because if a proud, out, gay man wants to identify himself that way, I’m totally fine with him taking back and using that word. But I’m not a proud, out, gay man, and I had the sense that the people asking me to use that word weren’t either, and that felt like hate speech to me.

I think what I thought was most surprising was that I hadn’t actually expected to encounter that word at all—maybe because it’s a word I just don’t hear in the public kink Scene, where people are generally pretty “woke” (yeah, I used the word) and aware of the power of language. It caught me a little off guard.

I’m not the kink police, and I think people should be able to do whatever they want consensually. But that was a limit that I found for me. And as for forced bi, it’s not that I don’t want to force eager little cock suckers to do a thorough job sucking cock, but I want them to be eager to be eager and not secretly self-hating. Major lady boner killer, there.