I just returned from a favorite hotel takeover kink event of mine, and I had intended to write a few posts to help people navigate these kinds of events as newbies. But as I started to write, I realized that there are some differences in the advice I would give to women than to men….
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Tips for Navigating a Big Kink Event as a Woman
I just returned from a weekend of debauchery at a big kink event. This one was in a hotel, although some are also held outside at campsites. The Gentle Domme is also The High Maintenance Domme, so I don’t usually attend those events! Big kink takeover events are usually crazy experiences. I love them and…
How to Do D/s When You’re in a Long-Distance Relationship
Whether you’re just separated temporarily from your partner or only see a long-distance partner by choice, keeping up a D/s relationship when your sweetie isn’t there can be tough. Let’s face it. Long-distance relationships are ALWAYS tough, whether you’re kinky or vanilla. But in some ways, a D/s relationship can help fan the flames of…
What Do Dominant Women Look for in Submissive Partners?
I see this question asked constantly on femdom forums. I get it! Submissive guys sometimes feel like dominant women are rare mythical creatures. There are ridiculous statistics like that there are 100 submissive men to every 1 dominant woman. I flatly think this is untrue, although I am willing to admit that the more hardcore…
How to Find the Best Chastity Device
When I started out as a top, I couldn’t understand why some people loved chastity devices. I could appreciate the concept of orgasm denial, especially as edging within a sex session. I had seen first-hand what denial could do to a man—make him beg and whimper and want, and I loved it! I loved the…
Domme Bites: What’s the Difference Between a Fetish and a Kink?
People tend to use these words interchangeably, but there’s an actual difference between the two. “In general, a fetish is a sexual fixation on a specific object or act that is absolutely necessary to a person’s sexual gratification.” “Kink, on the other hand, is a broader term that encompasses a bunch of alternative sexual interests,…
Domme Bites: What Makes a Good Sub? Dominatrixes Explain
While I am a lifestyle domme, I have nothing but respect for ethical pro-dommes. This article from Vice focuses on what some professional dommes believe makes a good sub. Takeaways include explore your kinks, be vocal and specific, understand your limits and that you can always say no, check in and communicate, and don’t mistake…
Book Blurb: Bound: A Daughter, a Domme, and an End-of-Life Story
Wow! This book is going on my reading list. Not only does it explore femdom, also mother daughter relationships and the health care system. That’s not something you read about together every day. “What happens when a forty-something, community college sociology professor learns that her mother—a charming, passive-aggressive, and needy woman who hasn’t had a…
I Can’t Be a Domme. I Like Giving Pleasure Too Much. And Other Such Nonsense!
I had an interesting but unexpected brief conversation with a friend the other day. My friend identifies as kinky with bottom tendencies. She’s new to the public Scene. I was telling her about the orgasm denial I’d been doing with my submissive and she said, “See. That’s why I can’t be a domme. I like…
The Package
It would be fine. It wasn’t like the thing was going to say “chastity cage” on the side of the box. Was it? Of course not. He was being ridiculous. People ordered tons of sex toys on the internet. Nobody advertised it. They would never know. Greg’s phone dinged just as the meeting was starting….