As if finding a kinky partner wasn’t hard enough before, now Coronavirus seems to have made it downright impossible for many. This is when I’m really happy that I’m NOT currently dating. I have numerous friends, kinky and vanilla, who aren’t sure what the new “rules” are when it comes to dating and how to …
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The Pandemic is a Real Kink Killer
Pardon the snark, since people are dealing with real death and despair, but I must admit that my interest in kink has waned quite a bit since COVID hit. I wrote the majority of my earlier articles earlier in the year before the pandemic began. Therefore, my latest previous articles before this one were not …
Tips for Navigating Your First Big Kink Event as a Man
I just returned from a favorite hotel takeover kink event of mine, and I had intended to write a few posts to help people navigate these kinds of events as newbies. But as I started to write, I realized that there are some differences in the advice I would give to women than to men. …
Tips for Navigating a Big Kink Event as a Woman
I just returned from a weekend of debauchery at a big kink event. This one was in a hotel, although some are also held outside at campsites. The Gentle Domme is also The High Maintenance Domme, so I don’t usually attend those events! Big kink takeover events are usually crazy experiences. I love them and …
How to Do D/s When You’re in a Long-Distance Relationship
Whether you’re just separated temporarily from your partner or only see a long-distance partner by choice, keeping up a D/s relationship when your sweetie isn’t there can be tough. Let’s face it. Long-distance relationships are ALWAYS tough, whether you’re kinky or vanilla. But in some ways, a D/s relationship can help fan the flames of …
What Do Dominant Women Look for in Submissive Partners?
I see this question asked constantly on femdom forums. I get it! Submissive guys sometimes feel like dominant women are rare mythical creatures. There are ridiculous statistics like that there are 100 submissive men to every 1 dominant woman. I flatly think this is untrue, although I am willing to admit that the more hardcore …
How to Find the Best Chastity Device
When I started out as a top, I couldn’t understand why some people loved chastity devices. I could appreciate the concept of orgasm denial, especially as edging within a sex session. I had seen first-hand what denial could do to a man—make him beg and whimper and want, and I loved it! I loved the …
Domme Bites: What’s the Difference Between a Fetish and a Kink?
People tend to use these words interchangeably, but there’s an actual difference between the two. “In general, a fetish is a sexual fixation on a specific object or act that is absolutely necessary to a person’s sexual gratification.” “Kink, on the other hand, is a broader term that encompasses a bunch of alternative sexual interests, …
Domme Bites: What Makes a Good Sub? Dominatrixes Explain
While I am a lifestyle domme, I have nothing but respect for ethical pro-dommes. This article from Vice focuses on what some professional dommes believe makes a good sub. Takeaways include explore your kinks, be vocal and specific, understand your limits and that you can always say no, check in and communicate, and don’t mistake …
Book Blurb: Bound: A Daughter, a Domme, and an End-of-Life Story
Wow! This book is going on my reading list. Not only does it explore femdom, also mother daughter relationships and the health care system. That’s not something you read about together every day. “What happens when a forty-something, community college sociology professor learns that her mother—a charming, passive-aggressive, and needy woman who hasn’t had a …