I get a lot of my blog ideas from reading questions people ask on forums. And today someone asked about what inspires your domme energy. Basically, I think I just always wanted to be a vampire.
Tag: Nurturing Your Inner Domme
I Can’t Be a Domme. I Like Giving Pleasure Too Much. And Other Such Nonsense!
I had an interesting but unexpected brief conversation with a friend the other day. My friend identifies as kinky with bottom tendencies. She’s new to the public Scene. I was telling her about the orgasm denial I’d been doing with my submissive and she said, “See. That’s why I can’t be a domme. I like …
Can You Be a Gentle Femdomme and a Sadist Too? The (Mostly) Painless Truth!
The answer to this question, like so many things in kink, is it depends who you’re asking. I believe that you can be into gentle femdom and be a sadist as well, because I think that gentle femdom has more to do with attitude than activities. I believe that you can be into gentle femdom …
Five Kinkalicious Ways to Help Your Girlfriend Feel Like the Confident Domme She Was Born to Be
If you’re a lucky sub who’s scored the girl of his vanilla dreams AND she’s psyched to be your domme, you probably feel like you’ve hit the jackpot. But if your girlfriend or wife is new to femdom, she might feel nervous about her fresh role. Most women are taught both consciously and subconsciously to …
How to Make It Through Your First Femdom Scene Feeling Like a Powerful Domme: Part Three
In the second part of this three-article series about setting up your first femdom scene, I talked about magic blindfolds, the importance of aftercare and discovering your domme archetype. Let’s press on to the third and final article. I hope after you finish, you’ll feel ready to kick ass…and maybe have yours kissed too. Another …
How to Make It Through Your First Femdom Scene Feeling Like a Powerful Domme: Part Two
In the first part of this three-part series about setting up your first femdom scene, I discussed my first scene and how nervous I felt about living up to my bottom’s expectations. I also talked about negotiation and consent and the importance of communication with your partner. One of the most helpful pieces of advice …
How to Make It Through Your First Femdom Scene Feeling Like a Powerful Domme: Part One
I remember it clearly. Here was this man I was very into. He wasn’t my submissive. We were just getting to know each other. But we’d made out, quite passionately I might add. We’d had a little light play at a kink event in public. And we agreed that we were going to meet up …