It’s Episode 5 of The Gentle Dommecast! This week The Rough Subbe and I are talking about money and men!
First, we discuss the role of money in a kinky relationship. Should submissive guys expect to pay tributes to possible dominants? We also talk about clarifying exactly what you’re looking for if you’re a man searching for a “Mistress,” and how that plays into the role of money within that search.
We bring up findom, and I come to no particular decision about it except that I think I’m bad at it. We also touch on emotional labor and sex work in a pandemic economy.
Then we move on to talking about submissive men and masculinity. Does being a submissive man make you less “masculine?” What about desires for emasculation in kink? And how do societal expectations about what is “masculine” and “feminine” play into these questions and anxieties?
1 thought on “Episode 5 of The Gentle Dommecast: Money and Men”
Great discussion on the differences between relationship and transactional BDSM as blurring the lines between the two cause a lot of issues. I think it’s essential to reinforce the importance of communication and knowing what you’re looking for in the kink space. My recent entry in the space was after a long period of reading and watching BDSM material. Thought it would stay a fantasy but after following a pro findomme on twitter for a year I gathered the courage to submit. I felt taking the time to know what she expects from her subs and how it matched what I was looking for in a domme was really important. Since it’s online only I feel that money is a very useful tool in power play. So far I felt it’s had a very positive impact on my life. I’m exploring what works for me in a real DS dynamic if I pursue a relationship in the future and my Goddess feels worshipped and is paid for her content/time. We have the right expectations for each other so it’s a consensual exploitation if that makes sense haha