Hello, my darling deviants! (I really like this greeting.  It may stick around.)

So, I debated whether or not to write this post, but I shall tell you a secret. 

I did THE phone sex.

I mean, I created a Niteflirt account a week or two ago. (It took me forever because you have to know HTML and get it approved, and I was like…what am I doing!!!! But then I finally got it up two days ago.)

And last night when I couldn’t sleep, I decided to try it.

And I liked it! I really did. It was a lot of fun. (Of course, I listed myself in the Mistress category.)

And a little scary. And a little like I have no idea what I’m doing, and I hope these people don’t give me bad ratings.

But it was also exciting and anticipatory. And the men were quite nice. I’m sure some are jerks, but I got lucky and had very polite callers. I will not reveal anything about them here.

Now…why was I afraid to share this here?

Well, this blog is real. I am a real woman. I have these very real desires, and I have very real relationships in which I enact these desires in a loving way. I didn’t create this blog to troll for phone sex callers—although I did create it to do SOMETHING with my love of writing and talking about kink.

I’ve gradually realized that I really enjoy the feedback from my stories and audio recordings, and I like interacting with people who read and listen.  But I am also trying to make some money! And I had often toyed with the idea of trying phone sex over the years, but I was just too scared. I thought I might be awful at it. (I might be awful at it. I guess I’ll see.)

Phone sex is fantasy. I do think you can probably develop real relationships with callers, but we aren’t going to meet in person, and unlike in my IRL sex and kink where I AM in control, in phone sex, even femdom phone sex, I really only have the illusion of control. Because I’m essentially acting as a service top. People are paying me for a service. And that’s ok. That’s fine and fun. But it’s fantasy.

In fact, the hardest part of the calls I took last night was figuring out what people wanted. It would have been nice if someone said, “I’m really into edging until I’m a quivering mess, and I love it when you talk about my leaking pre-cum and keeping me in a cage like your pet and use lots of ‘good boys’ on me.” Or, “I just want to chit chat about how I have a thing for white fishnets.”

But, alas, that did not happen. And so I ended up in a strange place of having to ask people what they liked and wanted, which probably breaks the illusion. But if there is a smoother way to do that, I will have to learn it.

So, there is a part of me that didn’t want to share this information here, because I worried that if people knew I was trying out phone sex, they would see me as a character and not as genuine. But then there was a part of me that DID want to share it, because:

1. Marketing. Duh.
2. This blog is partially about my life, and this is my life.
3. It’s kind of fascinating! I have never done any paid sex work before.

So…I will provide you with my listing IF you want to call and talk to me or chat. I might talk about this here sometimes or I might not. I might keep doing this or I might not.

The Gentle Domme on Niteflirt

It’s an experiment!