Here’s an interesting first hand article about a woman who uses kink to help her maintain her sobriety. People in the Scene might not be surprised about this. First, alcohol and drug use is generally frowned upon when practicing BDSM because of safety and consent concerns. And BDSM play can light up similar receptors in…
Year: 2020
Help! My Boyfriend is a Sub and I’m a Switch. How Can I Get What I Need?
Sometimes people’s needs match up perfectly. But often they don’t. You might think that if you meet a partner through the kink community, you’re all set. You’re both kinky. What’s the problem? But as most experienced kinksters know, it’s not always that simple. If you’re a switch and you meet a submissive man who doesn’t…
The Foolproof Way to Catch a Gentle Femdom: Hint. Remember She’s a Woman First.
Since the name of my blog is The Gentle Domme, it’s likely that part of the reason you’re here is because you want a specific kind of femdom, a gentle femdom. You want a woman who can take control, but do it sweetly and make it clear that she loves and adores you, despite what…
Five Kinkalicious Ways to Help Your Girlfriend Feel Like the Confident Domme She Was Born to Be
If you’re a lucky sub who’s scored the girl of his vanilla dreams AND she’s psyched to be your domme, you probably feel like you’ve hit the jackpot. But if your girlfriend or wife is new to femdom, she might feel nervous about her fresh role. Most women are taught both consciously and subconsciously to…
Can You Be Patient? Can You Be Very Good?
He stood halfway between her and the door. She had a feeling he might turn and run and that feeling made her feel sorry for him but also excited her. She fingered her dress, considering options. Should she try to calm him down or try to extend the moment? She decided on both. The young…
Stop Assuming Femdommes Hate Men!
If you only look at hardcore femdom porn or see the ridiculous parodies of femdommes in mainstream movies, leather clad, whip wielding dominatrices telling men to get down on their knees and beg for mercy like the pathetic, small dicked worms they are, well, then you might have a kind of skewed representation of what…
Domme Bites: Submissive Men Rejoice: Fetish Wear is Coming into Fashion
Lucky for you, if you’ve got a closet full of fetish wear (or even a drawer you hide from the kids), you’re going to be extra stylish next year! This article from GQ UK says that BDSM inspired looks are going to be fashionable for men next winter. Ladies, don’t pout. You know you can…
Why Service Topping Gets a Bad Rap in Kinkland and Why Service Tops Are Actually Awesome!
The term service top seems to get kind of a bad rap in the kink Scene. You don’t see a many people advertising themselves as one, maybe because it doesn’t seem as sexy as being a “big, bad dominant!” Also, some people don’t even know what a service top is or might have a misconception…
The Gentle Domme’s Guide to Cross-Dressing, Feminization and Sissification for New Dommes and Subs: Part Three
If you haven’t already, check out the first two articles in this three-part series about cross-dressing, feminization and sissification. So far, we’ve talked about the differences between cross-dressing, feminization and sissification and discussed the discomfort some dommes feel with sissification and forced feminization play because of misogynistic stereotypes. If your boyfriend or husband has confessed…
The Gentle Domme’s Guide to Cross-Dressing, Feminization and Sissification for New Dommes and Subs: Part Two
In my last blog article I talked about what to do if your male partner comes to you and wants to dress up like a woman. In that article we talked about cross-dressing and feminization and the differences between the two, especially that while cross-dressing is not necessarily submissive, feminization fantasies usually are—at least a…