I had known since I was a girl that I had kinky fantasies. Like a lot of women who realize they’re kinky, I started out believing that I was a submissive because I was a girl and girls are supposed to be demure and passive objects—or at least that’s what I thought. I was also…
Year: 2020
The In-Depth Guide to Finding a Femdomme in the Wild: Part Two
In part one of this article we discussed the myth that dominant women are a rare as Targaryen dragons and talked about the kinds of women you might encounter when you’re looking for a female dominant, from women who will never be into being dominant ever to women who want a complete female led relationship….
The In-Depth Guide to Finding a Femdomme in the Wild: Part One
Whether you’re a man who has been having femdom fantasies since you hit puberty or one who only recently started to long for a woman who will take charge of you, it can feel daunting to try and locate the “mythical creature” that is the femdom. Just kidding. Dominant women aren’t mythical, although it might…
Domme Bites: Gorgeous Portraits of Professional Dommes
Artist Max Eike produced a book of portraits of professional dommes. You can see a video of the portraits contained in the book here. Google Books describes the collection as, “an experiment with an uncertain outcome when the London based photographer began to shoot portraits of German dominatrixes. He strove to explore the boundaries between…
I Wanna Wax You Up: Beginner Wax Play for Gentle Dommes
I remember going to my first big kink event and seeing all of the hot scenes going on in the dungeon around me. But one that caught my eye was literally—hot. A woman had another woman splayed out naked on a massage table and was dripping hot wax all over her. The wax was in…
How to Write a Nice, Not Creepy Message on Fetlife, So Ladies Like You (and Don’t Block You).
What is likely to get you noticed and get a response? Basically, treating the person you are writing to as an actual person. Hello men of Fetlife! I have met many nice specimens of you in real life. You are polite, even charming! Some of you look quite adorable in your underwear. However, it seems…
Boss Woman
“But I could have sworn I heard you say, “I like women in power,” low, as you walked past me out of the room. You got donut sugar on my blazer.” You walk tentatively into the office, your hair mussed, a confused look upon your face, a face I’d thought of as charming the first…
Are You a Femdomme or a Female Top? What’s in a Label?
One of the first things you learn when you enter the kink community is that definitions, like both gender and sexuality, can be fluid. A term that means one thing to one person can mean something rather different to someone else. A good example of this are the terms top and domme. Generally, a top…
Gentle Femdom and Role Reversal? What’s the Difference, Anyway?
If you’re into sweet and loving femdom, you might be familiar with both the terms gentle femdom and role reversal. You might think these are the same things. Isn’t femdom a role reversal by definition in a world where we still tend to see men as sexual aggressors and leaders and women as less sexually…
Five Not So Kinky but Hopefully Helpful Tips to Remember When Attending Your First Munch
Okay. So, you found Fetlife, and you discovered there’s this entire world of kinky people out there! Which also means there’s an entire world of kinky submissive guys who want to be dominated and kinky femdommes who want to do it! But how do you meet these people? Are you really going to have to…