When I first got into the kink Scene I spent a lot of time of thinking about what I WAS. I mean this mostly in the sense that when you join Fetlife, you’re asked to choose a role, and since people I met were going to be seeing my Fetlife profile, I felt I needed something to label myself.
Tag: Topping
Why I’m a Domme but I’m Also a Happy Top!
After my last very theoretical discussion about ethics and trans women and sex work, let’s get back to basics. I am basically a top. Now, there are several ways we use the words “top” and “bottom” related to sex. Some people use the words to say who is doing the penetrating and getting penetrated. That’s…
Why Service Topping Gets a Bad Rap in Kinkland and Why Service Tops Are Actually Awesome!
The term service top seems to get kind of a bad rap in the kink Scene. You don’t see a many people advertising themselves as one, maybe because it doesn’t seem as sexy as being a “big, bad dominant!” Also, some people don’t even know what a service top is or might have a misconception…
Are You a Femdomme or a Female Top? What’s in a Label?
One of the first things you learn when you enter the kink community is that definitions, like both gender and sexuality, can be fluid. A term that means one thing to one person can mean something rather different to someone else. A good example of this are the terms top and domme. Generally, a top…