The Rough Subbe and I have been going through some challenging things lately regarding our relationship. It is always somewhat tenuous because of our ages and places in life, but sometimes I feel it more than other times. Yes! Dommes can get insecure. And it is very bad for a D/s dynamic—at least mine. When…

Premature Ejaculation Training is the Best Kink Ever
Have I talked about premature ejaculation training again recently? I don’t feel like I’ve talked about why I love this kink enough lately. Sometimes I feel like the most boring Domme in the world because I don’t care about hitting people. Or tying them up. Okay. Maybe a little scratching. But not even much of…

From the Dark Part of the Brain
I was having a conversation with someone the other day about kink (shocking), and the topic of breeding fantasies came up. I somewhat shamefully admitted, that I have a total breeding kink, although I literally NEVER actually play it out with anyone in person. Never have. Never will. This is NOT an invitation! In fact,…

No. I Actually Don’t Want to Sit on Your Face.
I know it’s been an eon since I published anything. I have resolved anew to get back into the swing of things, both professionally and in my personal life. I have let so many friendships languish, and honestly, I often feel rather lonely. (Not an invitation for stalkers, please.) I have no one to blame…
Where’d You Go, Miss Vivian?
I know, boys. I have disappeared again. I do this periodically. Don’t I? It’s very bad for business. If you’re someone who pays for domination—definitely online—and probably offline too, but I don’t do that, so I can’t speak for in person dommes—there is something you should know. Paid domination is a lot of work. Yeah,…

Why Is Erotic Humiliation So Hot?
Bringing out my, “This hurts me more than it hurts you,” nurturing condescension is funny. Maybe I have a lot of latent hostility I need to get out—although it’s rare that I get to go as far I probably could with a guy. One time someone told me to throw everything I had at his SPH kink, and he started to cry. Like really cry. That was satisfying. A job well done!

My Kid is Trans. I Do Online Domination. It’s Confusing.
You can also listen to this blog post here. You Can You Also Listen to This Blog Post Here. Last year my daughter came out as trans. I’m on a bunch of support groups for cis parents of trans kids, and I could have written about this there. I mean, I have written about various…

I’m a Top Sex Blogger? I’m a Top Sex Blogger!
I came in at 40 on the 100 Top Sex Blogger list for 2022 ! Not bad for someone who has almost completely ignored her blog for a long time! Maybe it’s resting on my laurels from when I was posting semi interesting material on the regular. (Sheepishly slinks away….)
Secret Blackmail Fantasy!
(30 Minutes) It’s time for another one of our little secret conversations. You can just relax and listen and let go. It’s okay, sweetie. I’d never tell. Or would I? What if I did tell. What if “she” found out—that you’d been listening to me, submitting for me, turning your orgasms over to me? You…
Shrinking and Selling My Husband’s Cock—Part 2!
(15 Minutes) Now that your cock is just a little nubbin, we need to set down some new rules. You’re going to be obedient oral servant from now on. Rule number one. No clothes in the house. Rule number two. You clean from now on. In fact, I want you to get started right now…